244 MINISODE Connie Reimers Hild: Overcoming Mom Guilt
Dr. Connie Reimers Hild has always had an uncanny ability to see the future – and she believes women entrepreneurs are changing the game of business. CEO of Wild Innovation, Connie helps entrepreneurs, business owners and leaders leverage fast-changing trends, technology and attitudes for business growth and mission-driven social impact. She shares her advice about integrating motherhood into entrepreneurship, and why it’s important to enjoy the journey not just the destination.
Melinda Wittstock: Connie, welcome to WINGS.
Connie Reimers Hild: Well thank you Melinda. I'm so excited to be here.
Melinda Wittstock: I am so happy to have you on as well and I always want to know first what is inspiring you right now?
Connie Reimers Hild: The future really is inspiring me right now. I'm very excited about the potential specifically for women.
Melinda Wittstock: Isn't it so inspiring? It's such a great time to be a woman right now. I think we're finding our voices and we're stepping into all these super powers that we have that maybe at one time we thought were weaknesses, but they're actually strengths.
Connie Reimers Hild: Yeah. And it's so refreshing to see that. I mean, I'm old enough now that I remember when intuition was not a strength, something you weren't supposed to listen to or develop, but it was just this weird thing that some of had.
Melinda Wittstock: Right. I know, isn't that true? And then now all these things like empathy, being sensitive, being relationship focused, all the so called soft skills are actually now power skills. And I think that's really an interesting thing where it is very inspiring, where women are going and what we're capable of now. And of course there are always challenges in all of that as well. What are some of yours?
Connie Reimers Hild: Oh Wow. Where do I start? I think sometimes, and I think about that, I think about one of my biggest challenges is really having that mindset around, it's okay to like to work. I still tend to have a lot of mom guilt. I'm an older mom. And my daughter used to play Barbie’s and she would pretend that her Barbie’s would … Her parents would go to work and then she'd go to daycare, a nanny would take care of her all day and then we would come home or go pick her up. I'm like, oh, ouch, that kind of hurts. But now that she's older, she's a preteen and she's like, “Hey, I'm really thinking about college, what can I do on the computer? How can I start, thinking about growing my own star.” And so I think even transitioning that and to see her grow and my children grow through this era of opportunity is amazing.
Melinda Wittstock: Yeah, that's beautiful. I like you, I'm an older mom, I started really, really late and way it's awesome because I have more wisdom than I would have had. And they do keep me a little younger.
Connie Reimers Hild: They do. That's true. You have to, hey, you have to stay on your game.
Melinda Wittstock: It's really true. Yeah, but I'm ancient compared to a lot of their parents, but anyway, but that's okay. But yeah, all these things are interesting as we juggle and integrate all these aspects of our lives. And so along the way, what are some of the things that you've learned that you'd like to share with our listeners today in terms of your top three go to pieces of advice?
Connie Reimers Hild: I really would encourage people to work towards the future they really want, and make that sharp right turn when necessary. I think too often we still listen to other people about you should do this, this is a great opportunity for you and really thinking about what you want and not just where you want to go, but what you want to experience along the way is really critical around that. And so that's really my number one. My number two is really have more fun. I just think as adults we get way too serious. Like, “Oh, this is boring,” And should not be boring. Especially I think especially as an entrepreneur, as a leader, it should be that we're helping others do that same. How do we enjoy this more? We're really in an era of abundance and we need to help people understand that and get out of the drama and just have fun.
Melinda Wittstock: Oh God, I love you for saying that. Thank you. I mean, because really when we think that happiness is the destination, oh gosh, you get to where you're going and suddenly you look around and maybe you don't even like the view. So, learning to enjoy the view, as you're, going on the ups and downs of entrepreneurship or whatever it is on your journey is so, so important. Anything else?
Connie Reimers Hild: Yeah, I would just really encourage people to create a good life team, including your spouse or your partner, kids, co-moms. I have a group of co-moms I like to talk about, but that support system at work and at home, is critically important if you really want to pursue the future you want.
Melinda Wittstock: Beautiful. So Connie, how can people find you and work with you?
Connie Reimers Hild: A great way to find me is on twitter @askdrConnie or Linkedln. But also, you can find me on the web askdrconnie.me.
Melinda Wittstock: Okay. That is wonderful. Thank you so much for putting on your wings and flying with us.
Connie Reimers Hild: Oh, absolutely. And I do have a free download for your guests. It's actually an eBook called Blue the Bee Learns to be Happy. It's a coloring and activity book for adults, youth or even families or teams and they can find that on my website.
Melinda Wittstock: Oh, how wonderful. Well thank you so much. That's great. We'll make sure all of that in the show notes and gosh, it was great to have you on.
Connie Reimers Hild: Thank you.