250 MINISODE Heather Dominick: Comparison Envy
Heather Dominick is a transformational leader who helps entrepreneurs get into alignment with their true purpose and passion. She shares her advice about how to reject the “energy of comparison” and others’ agendas for us. Creator of the award-winning “A Course In Business Miracles”, Heather is helping “highly sensitive entrepreneurs” (HSEs) leveraging their intuitive strengths and find ways around the circumtances that leave many in overwhelm or burnout.
Melinda Wittstock: Heather, welcome to Wings.
Heather Dominick: Thank you so much, I'm so happy to be here with you today.
Melinda Wittstock: I am too, and I'm so intrigued with what you do and all the value you create in the world, this link between business and the spiritual, which is so much about what this podcast is about. I'm curious what's inspiring you right now?
Heather Dominick: It's so interesting, because what always inspires me is the people that I have right in front of me to serve. That's really the highly sensitive entrepreneurs, who are in the Business Miracles community, and specifically twice a year, I hold what I refer to as in-person training retreats. That's where everyone in the Business Miracles community, no matter what mentoring program they're in, we come together in person and HSEs literally travel from as far as Africa, to Iceland, to Hawaii to attend. Every training retreat, I am preparing new content so we have one that's coming up and I will be delivering content on the energy of comparison, and how to really shift that so that we can have access to more creative abundance. I would say that process is massively inspiring me right now.
Melinda Wittstock: Oh my goodness, that's interesting, the energy of comparison. So many of us wake up in the morning and the first thing we check is social media, which is totally about comparison. Talk to me a little about that, 'cause that just really has the effect of knocking you off your own agenda, or making you feel, “Oh my God”, or reminding you of all the things that you wish you were doing, I guess, right?
Heather Dominick: Well, it's so interesting. I mean, definitely the energy of comparison is active for all of us these days, whether we're highly sensitive or not, but especially for those of us who are highly sensitive unconsciously, we've really, pretty much our entire life experience, been comparing ourselves to others that we see. Basically, if not coming up short, coming up different, because according to Dr. Aron, who's the founding researcher in, The Highly Sensitive Person, there are 20% of us who are born into the world highly sensitive. So, it only makes sense when you look outside of yourself and you're looking for validation, you're like, “Oh gosh, I'm not finding it. There must be something wrong with me.” It's really what I'll be teaching at the training retreat is, beginning to detangle that automatic process that's been running so long and understanding more of what's happening for us biologically, physiologically when we go into comparison, and through that understanding be able to make a different choice.
Melinda Wittstock: Beautiful. Everyone in business has challenges, even if you're doing something, as you obviously are, so in alignment with your own purpose and passion. What are some of yours right now?
Heather Dominick: Absolutely. I would say that growth and evolution always brings challenges, just as you said, so for myself over the last, maybe 12 to 18 months, I've really been working with how to be able to train the team that I work with to be an even deeper extension of my work. That is a process, and it's a fabulous and enjoyable process, and it is also challenging, right? I'm sure we can all imagine, “Hmm, how do I take what is so natural inside of me and bring it out of me, and then be able to train others to be able to deliver that, but also in a way that's natural and aligned for them?” It is a challenge, but again, I am really, really, really enjoying it.
Melinda Wittstock: Oh, that's wonderful. What are your top three go-to pieces of advice for women in business, and female entrepreneurs, you've learned along the way?
Heather Dominick: Absolutely. Well, first and foremost again, I really serve highly sensitive entrepreneurs, so I would say number one for those that I serve, it's about understanding if you're highly sensitive or not. That's number one, but even if you're not, what that really speaks to is, really know yourself. So, I would say number one, know yourself. Number two, is really embrace and accept just who you genuinely are. Then number three, is to develop and design your systems, your processes, your marketing, your selling, so that it really matches that genuine self that you've taken the time to really understand and get to know. I really say that those are my three because I see so many, especially women entrepreneurs, out there in the marketing space really just looking to cookie-cutter copy what they see that someone else is doing. This goes back to comparison as well, too, right?
Then there just becomes such a crowding of the marketplace that it's almost as if there's so much noise, that those who are, what I refer to as your sacred contracts, actually can't find their way through the noise to you because you're not out there as you. So, know yourself, embrace yourself, design your business to match yourself.
Melinda Wittstock: Oh, what brilliant, brilliant advice. Is there anything else you want to add?
Heather Dominick: I would say that is enough right there.
Melinda Wittstock: I know, right? Just a small thing, that's just a small little detail. Absolutely. Heather, how can people find you and work with you?
Heather Dominick: Yes, absolutely. Well, my recommendation would be, is if you have a feeling that you might be highly sensitive, to go to hsequiz.com, hsequiz.com, and there you'll find a very comprehensive, but also enjoyable … really, it's a self-assessment. At the end of the self-assessment, you'll find out whether you're somewhat of an HSE, a super HSE, or if you're like me and you're a super, uber HSE. Then you'll also receive a free success guide, and depending where you fall on that HSE scale, the success guide will be designed to support you in really beginning to understand how to work with this aspect of yourself, within your business, so that you can really just be experiencing more financial success.
Melinda Wittstock: Oh, that's wonderful. Well, thank you so much for putting on your wings and flying with us.
Heather Dominick: I love it, thank you.